FAQ

What is a Little in BDSM?

The short answer: everything! In BDSM, or the terms Bunnyslave, Slang, and Stud Sex, is a form of erotic role play that originates from and is prevalent in the BDSM community. There are many variations of this, and they range from” vanilla” to” fetishes & kink” but in essence, what is a little in BDSM is defined by the actions and expressions of the participants in the action. We’ll discuss some of the more common “little” things in BDSM below.

Rope Hanging – This is pretty much what it sounds like: Two people tie one another up with ropes and then take turns pulling the ropes back out again. Usually at the end of the rope is a buttock (or groin, depending on the situation). Sometimes the ropes are attached to weights, which are used to give extra weight and pain to the tied-up person. Often people will “butch” the other person; basically, butching is when one person pulls painfully on the rope. Be careful not to hurt someone!

Face slapping is one of my favorite things in BDSM, because it leaves your partner feeling vulnerable and raw – often arousing them even more than if you had simply slapped them! For me, a good “face slap” can be achieved by tying your partner down with rope around their face and having him/her pull on the rope. The pain should be severe enough to wake the person only long enough for you to get away. After you’re done, run away as fast as you can. Don’t look back, because it won’t matter in the long run. The point of face slapping in BDSM is to send a powerful message.

Role play with toys! I’m a big fan of role playing with toys, whether they’re soft or hard. There are some toys that are specifically made for role playing, such as those that come with a vibrator built in. You can use your imagination on them! A great way to find out what toys you and your partner like is to watch some videos of people playing together and go from there.

Using drapes and blindfolds: In my bedroom, I usually have a king-sized bed, with a queen-sized dresser and dressers below. I also have a couple of closets with two end tables and two dressers. All of my clothes and shoes are stored in drawers, and I use blinds on the windows so that the room looks like an oasis in a desert!

Drapes and blindfolds are great to turn on a camper. They make the room look like a private motel room, even though it’s actually the den of a BDSM household. There’s nothing like being able to watch TV or play video games when the mood strikes. Another fun thing about these items is that you can use them during role playing. I have a few rope drapes in my living room and I put blinds up to the windows so that my partners can see each other. Sometimes we’ll switch roles and each person watches a different channel, which gets very interesting!

Using ropes: Sometimes I like to play with rope in my bedroom. For example, I’ll tie a rope around my waist and then attach a leash to it. I’ll be able to easily take off my shoes and socks and move around the room freely. The only real downside to using ropes in the bedroom is that sometimes it can become embarrassing if your partner sees you wearing them. They may also start asking questions about why you wear them when it’s just after sex, which can be embarrassing for both of you.

The main thing to remember is that what is a little in BDSM doesn’t mean you have to deny your partner pleasure. I am not saying that you shouldn’t let him control every aspect of your life, just that you should find ways to give him pleasure as well. If you’re using any of these items, just remember that they are only a way to add some excitement and recreation to your sex life. Always keep in mind that there is always a time for romance!